WIFE OR WIVES THAT WILL CAUSE YOU TROUBLE

And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart.

1 King 11:3

THE WIVES OF SOLOMON THAT TURNED HIS HEART AWAY FROM GOD!

Would you believe that in every man’s success or failure there is a woman or women behind him!

Samson had his Delilah to his own demised.

Elkanah had his Hannah & Penninah to happier life!

King David had his Bathsheba that caused him his sons Absalom, Adonijah and troubles in his kingdom. But note however that despite the many wives of David his heart did not turn away from God, therefore it is wrong to assume that having many wives will turn away ones heart away from God.It is not the number of wives but the quality of the wife or wives. Even just a wife can turn away ones heart away from God. So the question is, what kind of wife or wives will turn the heart of a man away from God?

Heard of the wife of Job trying to turn away the heart of Job away from God? Did you remember the wife of Lot who did not listen to God’s word carefully? Remember our first mother how she lead her husband Adam and us toward’s death & misery? And now on Solomon…wise king …what kind of wives turned away his heart away from God? The answer is in the beginning verses. Why do we always isolate one verse from the context? The women that turned his heart away were “strange women” who did not believed in God or His word! Strange women are not necessarily foreigners but women that has not the Word of God in them… See 1 King 11 verses:

1 But King Solomon loved many foreign women, as well as the daughter of Pharaoh: women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians, and Hittites— 2 from the nations of whom the LORD had said to the children of Israel, “You shall not intermarry with them, nor they with you. Surely they will turn away your hearts after their gods.” Solomon clung to these in love.

HOW IMPORTANT ARE WOMEN IN THE MAINTENANCE OF A HOME

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;1 Peter 3:1

1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

That is the advised of the Apostle to us; but would you know that even if how saintly a man is, his home would still be a ruin if he has a foolish wife or wives?

Quite hard to find a virtues woman or women, right? Right! Proverbs 31 says so!
Many men made sure that when they married they were equally yoke in their faith; but to their surprise their marriage ends in divorce or separation. What happened? They did not know that a lot of women whether believers or believers were wired to destroy their homes with the mindset that the Mother of Harlots and the spell of jezebel had injected into their minds through the false system of the world. These women thinks they are godly and religious, but the fact is, their attitudes and thinking if compared with the Holy Women of old, they are a world apart! Thus is it any wonder that the families are breaking apart; and that the families that are breaking apart are the NUCLEAR FORM OF FAMILY?

Nuclear form of family is a family with one husband, one wife and several children. This form of family is a recent development. For previously our societies were patriarchal were the Biblical model were followed; with men leading their household and free to add other wives thus a man can have several wives. And if a wife begins to wax wanton against her husband necessary measures was within the husband arsenal to discipline such a wayward wife. The household could not be greatly affected since their were other wives and concubines who would still be there to maintain the household. But nowadays with the false doctrine that it is a sin and disloyalty for man to add a wife, the household of any is an easy prey for the devil’s ploy! Woe to the man who have an only wife and that wife begins to wax wanton against him! His tears and cold from his running nose will mixed from his anguish and broken heart.

So if societies want to preserve the families let us go back to the biblical model!

OLD GRANDMA OF MY LOYAL FRIEND POLYJOHN

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Proverbs 31:12

 My friend PolyJohn told me a story about his grandma. As I have said before my friend and me loved to talked about women, families, relationships and how to maintain them. He told me that the HOME of every man was dependent on how strong the wife or wives of such men. No matter how good a man and responsible he is, if his wife is foolish…then in almost all cases such a family will come to ruins!

He told me about his grandma’s wisdom. Here the story of old wise grandma.

Grandma was married to a drunkard and gambler. But would you believe they never quarreled even for once? The old wise woman knew her wife crafts so well that she tamed a drunkard and a gambler!

One time when grandpa was able to sold their pigs for ten thousand pesos; he happened to pass by a wake for a dead neighbor. The old man went to bet the money and began to lose three thousand pesos. Hoping to get it back he gambled and gambled till all the money from the sales of the pigs were gone!

He went home and told his wife. And do you think wise grandma went to make a scene or made their house a hell for him? No, the wise women said: When I married you, I already knew you were like that…the ten thousand was just money…i have accepted you as you are, so it is okay…well earn money again…so relax! I forgave you!

1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

1 Peter 3:2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

1 Corinthians 14:34 women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the Law says.

Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.

Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

THE MOTHER OF MY LOYAL FRIEND POLY JOHN

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.Proverbs 31:11

He is an only child of his mother BUT he had step-brothers and step-sisters from his father with his other wives. And his mother named him Poly John like she meant him to Multiply.

And we always talk about women, families and relationship on how to maintain them. And he told me about how his mother used to cry because his father was with his other women. And one of his narrow minded relatives told his mother that they will kill his father if she would give the word. But his wise grandma, the mother of his mother intervened. The old wise woman said: If you kill the man won’t his son hate you? Won’t the authorities be after you? Don’t do such an evil thing!Thus was his father life not spilled by foolish men!

And my friend told me that his mother would always be kind and gentle every time his father went home. She never quarreled him for his “womanizing” but just treated him with kindness like a martyr. His father had lots of imperfections and stupidities…but his mother kept their family intact with the advice of her own old father and mother.

His mother is a public school teacher, not necessarily full of virtues, but by the way she acted wisely in behalf of her family-she maintained her household like the Holy Women of Old!

Here are some scriptures on women:

Proverbs 11:16
A kindhearted woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth.

Proverbs 12:4
A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones

Proverbs 14:1
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

Proverbs 19:13
A foolish son is his father’s ruin, and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping.

Proverbs 21:19
Better to live on a corner of the roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife.